Mentality of Indian husbands.
What to expect by Indian husband
1) Menses.
Indian men are never taught about mensuration because it's taboo in India to discuss about women thing. Don't expect them to feel your menstrual pain.
2) Workload.
Wife's are supposed to do all the house chores. Without any help from anyone. Having a maid is a blessing but that help what they receive also may be used against them saying " you have a maid at home and still why is the house always in mess". They forget that house chores and taking care of kids is 24/7 job.
Husband's are thought that house chores are only for girls and it's a taboo for them to help or even do thier own work at home.
3) No Sunday's.
Indian wife's don't have leaves, if they do take a brake from cooking for one day in a week then they are considered as LAZY. No matter how much tired or physical pain you have you can't take a day off.
But since husbands work and toil outside so they can take rest as soon as they come home and even on Saturday and Sundays.
4) Wife's parents.
She cannot visit her parents as she wills she has to take permission from everyone in the house including husband. But HE can stay with his parents in one house.
Going separate means HE IS A BAD SON. However watching wife suffer at the hands of his family is still ok. He is neither called BAD SON or SLAVE OF WIFE.
5) ROMANCE.
There is no such word as ROMANCE in the dictionary of Indian husbands. They are always afraid of being laughed or taunted by his family and friends so he never shows any display of love. Note:- extra marital affairs are common when either of the spouse don't show affection.
6) Trouble from in law's.
You can expect any kind of mental torture from your in law's. Your hardwork is nothing but your duty to serve them. Making them happy is an impossible task. Daughter in law's are the scape goats for every wrong that happens in the house. Help from husband depends on their mood otherwise they usually don't interfere because they are afraid of being called "SLAVE OF WIFE".
7) Husband or cowards.
They don't have enough backbone to fight for his wife's right or even his own rights. He is more afraid of what people will think instead of how wife will feel and think.
8) Money.
Indian husband's are extremely stingy when it comes to spending on wife. They are thought spending money one wife is a waste of money. Only very few women get pocket money also in many household women are not allowed to work outside.
It is instilled in men's mind from childhood that wife's will try to break the ties of the family because she is selfish. They won't consider that she is trying to keep the inlaws at bay because of inhumane torture that she suffered.
9) Lazy husband's.
Husband's who help wife's are aliens in India. Looking after the kids is a sole responsibility of wife were husband only spends money on children rest has to be taken care of wife and any mistakes are also her responsibility.
10) Unappreciative husband.
The pain you take to complete all the tasks on time goes Unappreciated. Hence you'll lose interest to keep your husband happy as they'll never be happy as they think that's it's your duty as it's his duty to cloth and feed you.
11) Mistakes.
Mistakes are not accepted in any way. One mistake may be used against you all throughout your life. Husband's want a robotic wife who don't make mistakes or else you are called an immature and that you need to change
Wife's are forced to bend in the way of husband. Forcing her to change her whole personality. A happy go lucky girl may be turned into ugly duckling.
12) Trips.
Going on trips is a blessing. However he may bring his family along with you or he may not take you at all. Wife can only feel envious looking at other people around her going on trips and if she says her husband to take her on a holiday then she is called greedy and inconsiderate for spending husbands money lavishly. Hence she can only expect 1-2 trips in 10 years.
13) Competition
The food no matter how delicious you cook you can never beat his mother's cooking. No matter how much you work but his mom worked harder. No matter how much you suffer at the hands of your in law's but his mother suffered 10 times more. So your pain is nothing and hence your are leaving a carefree and comfortable life according to your husband and In law's.
14) No sick leave.
Headache or stomach ache you still have to get up and do your work because it's your responsibility.
15) Jokes.
After going through HELL husband's crack jokes on wife's for how bad they are.
Look at the irony of the situation. If she fights for rights she is called selfish. If she defends herself she is called disobedient wife. If is demands for a trip, clothes or things she is called greedy and spendthrift. If she is satisfied with what she has she is called dum who doesn't keep up to date with trend like others. And husband himself may laugh at her looks, dress and style whence he is the one who can buy things for her.
Conclusion
Indian wife's have a hard time. So if you marry someone from India then expect all of this. If someone marries a bad woman then everyone pities him, but if woman marries an over bearing man she is asked to have patience and if she fights for rights she is called a uncultured and disobedient wife.
Indian husband's always live in fear. They are afraid to even show affection in fear that wife's may demand more and in law's may call him names. Marriages break not because you got a wrong partner but due to the upbringing, culture, family and situations and how you respond to the problems you face.
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